Well, I finally managed to write down my goals for this new year. To be honest, I’m a bit excited for 2013. Like lots of folks, I have some grand hopes for this year. This is also the year I turn the big 3-0. While many people cringe at the thought, I’m actually looking forward to my thirties with great optimism. I have great expectations for the next ten years. But as they say, you have to work for your goals and make your own dreams happen. I’m ready.
I came up with five goals that I would like to focus on in 2013. While I have many ideas and areas to consider, these seem to encapsulate the majority of them. These goals are pretty personal, but I decided to share them here with the whole world anyway. Nothing like putting yourself out there, right?
So for what it’s worth, here they are.
Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket. Whenever something really good or really bad happens in my life, I tend to focus only on that one thing. For example, if I’m working on a project or a new recipe and it flops, my mind is somehow programmed to see just that negative event. I tend to forget all the other wonderful, positive, and amazing things happening in my life. I suppose this makes me a pessimist, even though I would tend to disagree with that. This goal also means that just because one thing, good or bad, is happening that I can’t focus on or do anything else. Do you ever get something stuck in your head that makes it seem impossible to do or think about anything else? This happens to me way too often. I end up wasting a great deal of time and energy worrying about things that will most likely never happen. This leads me to goal number two.
Be present. If there is one goal that I really need to accomplish, this is it. I have mentioned it here before, but I am a worrier. As we all know, worrying isn’t the most productive thing we can do. I know I spend too much time over-analzying, over-thinking, and over-reacting. So, the goal here is to learn from the past, plan for the future, and enjoy today. Instead of thinking about an important meeting tomorrow while watching the newest episode of Downton Abbey, I will turn my brain off, enjoy every minute of the show, and then plan for the meeting afterwards. Or viceversa. You get it. I think being present is a huge key to living a happier life. Life can be tough and challenging. That’s why it’s so important to hang on to and enjoy those beautiful and happy moments that we have. Those memories make the challenges just a little bit more bearable.
Live with intention. Though I may hide it a bit here on the blog, I am a waster of time. I often find myself complaining that there are not enough hours in the day. Then, a moment later, I find myself wasting time on frivolous things that really offer no value or enrichment to my life. While I’d like to blame social media for this, it ultimately rests on my shoulders. Although some of that ”wasted time” is good, most of it is kind of silly. Basically, I hope to do things more intentionally – to not waste time on foolish things, to do things with purpose. I hope to spend more time accomplishing goals and projects than on planning or researching them. Living with intention for me also means finding a better work / life balance. I have given myself fully to my career over the past five years; it’s now time to cut myself a little slack and enjoy other things in life.
Love myself. If I can’t do this, how in the hell am I going to love somebody else? Or expect someone else to love me. This goal has several meanings. First, I am awesome and I am enough. You are, too. We all are. It’s it about darn time we start believing it. At the end of the day, all each of us has is who we are. We might as well love that person. Secondly, I need and want to take care of my body. It’s been good to me, so I need to return the favor. Finally, for years now I have for some silly reason shied away from finding someone to share my life with. While I’m so grateful and appreciative for all the wonderful things in my life, something is still missing. I’m now, more than ever fully aware what that something is. Thankfully, I’ve been able to build a great life, a warm home, and a successful career for myself. Now, I just need to find someone to share it with. It’s about time. Any applicants? Seriously.
Fall forward. There is a 99% chance I am going to fail at all of these goals several times throughout this new year. That’s okay. The important things is to fall forward. I need to learn from my mistakes, pick myself up, and continue on. Mistakes make us stronger and smarter. No matter how hard we try to avoid them, some are inevitable. Plus, if you are making mistakes, you are putting yourself out there, doing something, trying new things … living. So this year, I will fall. But I will fall forward.
So that’s it, my personal goals for 2013! What are you focusing on in 2013?
This post first appeared on Inspired by Charm on 1/8/2013.