Dreams Change and That’s Okay.

Well, I’ve delayed this long enough. Although this is probably bigger news for me, it has been a major factor in my life for the past few months and is something I need to share with you. I just feel telling you is necessary as I move forward with my life, career, and this blog. After much thought (I’m talkin’ like six months here, people), I have made the incredibly tough decision to close the doors of my little inn. As of January 1, 2013, I stopped taking guests in my house. What the what? Yeah, I know. As I said, I didn’t come to this decision quickly or easily, but after much soul searching, I decided this was the best and right thing to do. I’m going to try and be as brief as possible, but I feel I owe you an explanation. So, here goes. 

Living. It sounds romantic and wonderful to own a Bed and Breakfast, but it is life consuming. As much as I enjoyed running my inn, I really didn’t do much other than that. I forgot to live, or didn’t have time to live rather. There were months and months I went without a day off, without the phone ringing, etc. You get it, right? I could go on, but I’ll stop there.

Space. I needed my own space. Again, I love interacting with people and making new friends. I couldn’t imagine a career without some aspect of that interaction. As much as I loved that, after five years, the constant presence of people in my home took its toll on me. I mean, sometimes you just want to walk around in your pjs (or less) and leave a few dirty dishes in the sink. As some of you may have already guessed, I have already completely taken over the main house and made it my own. Remember how I created a living room. Well, spoiler alert, it’s all for me. Selfish as it sounds, I can’t tell you how happy I am about that. I will get some more pictures and explanations on the blog this week or next week as to how I am now using the space. I’ve been so excited to share this with you. 

Dreams. Ever since high school I have dreamed of owning a Bed and Breakfast. Thankfully, at the green young age of 25 I had the opportunity to buy one and I successfully ran it for almost five years. In my book, that’s pretty amazing. I’m not closing my doors because the business failed or didn’t prosper, I’m closing Old Charm B & B because I chose to. Did you ever dream of doing something, going to a particular place, or trying a certain food, and even though it was amazing, it wasn’t exactly what you thought it would be? Well that happens. Dreams aren’t always what you think they will be. Dreams change, and that’s okay.

Money. “Dude, if you are not running your little inn, how are you going to make a living?” I debated whether to address this question because how someone makes money or what someone chooses to do with money is really no one else’s business. At least that’s what my grandma says. To keep this explanation simple, this little blog (thanks to all of you!) is doing wonderfully. I’m also writing blog posts for some amazing companiesand my gift shoppe (inside my house) will remain open. In addition, I have a few other projects / opportunities that are on the down-low at the moment. So hopefully, that answers that question.

Future. Beyond my dream of owning a Bed and Breakfast, I have a lot of other things I want to do. I want to design products, write a book, and create, I want to see more of the world. Making this change allows me the chance to pursue some new and very exciting dreams. At this point, the world is my oyster. I’m open to new opportunities and challenges until that “one” comes along that fits. 

And yes, I know that over the years many of you have expressed interest in staying here, meeting me, and eating my pancakes. Don’t worry. For now, I’m staying right here. Maybe we can work something out. Plus, not being so tied down gives me the opportunity to come visit you, right? There are a lot of other details and things that go into this story, but I’ve shared the ones that affected my decision the most. If you have questions, you’re welcome to ask them in the comments, and I’ll do my best to answer them. 

Thank you so much for your continued support and love throughout these years. Without all of you, this move and change would not be possible. In fact, many of your emails, comments, and words of support helped make this decision a whole lot easier So again, thank you. 

Here’s to new and exciting adventures together! 

  1. I have enjoyed reading your blog and it is understandable why you are making this decision. Best of luck in your new ventures! I know you will continue to do wonderful things and I look forward to hearing about them. Sharon

  2. Congratulations! So happy to hear that you are following your heart and not feeling obligated to a dream that has been fulfilled. Looking forward to seeing you spread your wings!

  3. Good for you! I am sure you will be just as successful at your future endeavors. Designing your living room and bringing that design to life, for you to enjoy, in your home, is not selfish. I live for the day I can have my home back to just my husband and son (MIL lives with us). Enjoy it and don’t apologize for living a life well deserved.

  4. You are the only one who can decide what’s best for you so congratulations on your new ventures! I hope that one day I will get to meet you and some of that awesomeness will rub off on me. Blessings to you now and in the future!

  5. Thank you for sharing bits of your story with us. Yes, dreams can change and that is totally ok! In fact, that’s what makes life exciting… changing and trying new things! I’ll look forward to hearing what fun new things develop for you. I’m also looking forward to seeing you (even from afar) at SNAP in April.

  6. I am in awe of your couage and determination. I know that you know that this is the right decision for you. I hope you spread your wings and soar. My son did a similiar thing. He was with his partner for 14 years but had a dream of living in Fl. and having a design business. His partner would not go so my son, picked up his entire life, rented a truck and went 1500 miles to a place where he knew no one. He is doing very well and is extremely happy. Yes, dreams do change. Follow your heart. Pinky

  7. You’ve made a brave decision, but you can never go wrong when you take a chance because your heart tells you it’s time. Just be thankful that you are wise enough to listen. Thank you for sharing this decision and your life through your blog. You are an inspiration!

  8. The only thing for certain in life is change. We only have two things in life that we have no control over, when we are born and when we die. Everything else is the result of choices we make. Making changes after realizing a dream-come-true is a blessing. Onto the next blessing, I say.

  9. I too have dreamed of owning a B&B since I was young. Thankfully, our lives have had us mobile (graduate school, AirForce, etc)for many years, because we have been able to stay in B&Bs all over the country during this time and gather information/evaluate. I learned early on that my personality would not enjoy having people IN my living space. Dream was suspended, farm bought since then… home built and with it a huge detached carriage house/garage. And one day the obvious solution to my never forgotten innkeeper dreams came to me. We have finished the upstairs of the carriage house for our future B&B, guests will not even eat in the main house because we have built it to allow delivery of breakfast to the B&B Loft. In the near future we hope to open full time and we even have plans of a freestanding cottage to the back of our property at the pond to add a second unit. So, all this to simply say, I was grinning as you talked of your ‘altered’ dreams… we too hope we will be open to ever changing dreams and never hold on to a way of doing things because we are to fearful to adapt and evolve. Wish you well in your new and continued adventures!

  10. You know all those quotes floating around Pinterest (you’ve heard of Pinterest, right?) about getting out there and doing things to make yourself happy? Well they mean nothing if people just collect internet quotes and not do anything to make their lives more fulfilling. I am beyond thrilled that you’re doing what makes you happy and I am beyond thrilled that I got to experience the carrot cake pancakes (and you) in all of your delicious and hospitable glory. Now get out here and visit! You have to cook though. Sorry.

  11. I’ve only recently discovered you blog, but I’ve soooo enjoyed it! So many of your posts speak to me so clearly and this is one of them! Thanks for sharing and giving me something to relate to as recently my dreams have shifted as well. Take care and good luck in all of your new adventures!

  12. Ah, now you can get out and about and meet some people and maybe the love of your life. Good luck and I will continue to read your blog since I have enjoyed it so much. And congratulations on all your new endeavors.

  13. Yaaaaay! CONGRATULATIONS!! This was one of my favorite posts to read…all of the quotes scattered throughout this post were so beautiful and really expressed who you are!! You Rock!

  14. Live your life! your way, just because we have a dream does not mean its the best thing for us! I think what you are doing is fantastic, as I myself have done the same thing, good luck and good life to you.
    Always follow a path with heart!
    Its so nice to have your house as yours again, I know the feeling well.

    Are you keeping this blog so we can still keep in touch with you?

    enjoy life!

  15. Congrats on your decision! Enjoy your life :) do what is best for you! We always tell our 2 girls (now 24 and 26) life is a series of choices-just be sure of the ones that you are making because life is short! Best of luck and looking forward to what the future holds for you!

  16. Good for your and best wishes! Kudos for following through with your dream and then knowing yourself well enough to know that it needed to change. There’s no shame in that, the only shame is in not trying.

  17. Congrats, Michael! You’re young and the world lies before you. How marvelous of you to reach out and grab it!! I wish you great luck in all your future endeavors and look forward to reading about your adventures right here on your blog!

  18. Michael, All the best of luck! My grandaughter though she did want to be a guest would totally agree-there must be ME time for our mental health! Keep blogging..doors closing- windows open etc…best of luck!

  19. Best wishes to you in all of your future plans. I can’t wait to read about it here on the blog! Come visit Columbus, Ohio if you have the time!! I would be happy to show you around!

  20. YAY for you!!! We should all be so brave as to follow our dreams!! I LOVE tuning in each day to read your blog and see what adventure you’re up to…..it’s really going to be exciting now!!

  21. I’m rather new here, and yes I was trying to orchestrate a visit to your Inn in the future, but I’m glad to have read todays blog – glad for you to be able to do what you feel, and inspired by your ‘orchid sayings’. Bottom line, please come visit Akron, Ohio. I am launching a business this Spring – Everyday Pontoon Charters. I’ll show you and your friends the beautiful and historic Portage Lakes region – and welcome your input on how to improve a fledgling business. Good luck to you.

  22. Good for you Michael! I am so happy for you and can’t wait to see where you take us all next. Much like you, I collect quotes that speak to me – I keep them in a leather notebook by my desk. It’s a total modge podge of things that have spoken to to me through various experiences and times. I tried to find just the perfect one for you now but it was too hard to choose just one. Quotes, just like life, offer so many options it’s hard to just choose one. What is really cool is that you are taking your life in hand & going after your dreams. So I will leave you with this quote by Mary Kay Ash…”Idea’s are a dime a dozen. People who implement them are priceless.” You make me smile every day – thank you :)

  23. Congratulations on choosing yourself over a business that does not define you! My husband and I made a very similar decision 3 years ago, and I cannot tell you how much happier we are. Good luck on your journey!

  24. We all have choices, sometimes we just forget that we do! Enjoy it all; choose to change what you don’t enjoy! Life’s too short to be miserable, really! You go, Michael!

    Ps. Any chance you could pin that last quote/pic about not obsessing…my 11 year old is so struggling with that…just tonight! Amazing how things come just when you need them! Thx!

  25. I’m glad to read that you made the right choice for you!

    Having run a B&B since 2000, last year I made the choice to close one of the rooms AND book time off for us. We actually had a 2 week road trip vacation in our 5th wheel in August! Unheard of in the B&B biz! :) This June it’s an Alaska cruise plus another road trip!

    Enjoy your new chosen path and having your home to yourself! I wish you the very best!

  26. Michael,
    Your news today brought calm to my heart. I am on a new dream path also and will know the direction it takes on Monday. The beautiful photos and script will be held in my hand whatever the results are for me. Thank you for sharing, and at a time I needed this inspiration. Sending you joy, bliss an success along your new path.

  27. Michael,
    Your news today brought calm to my heart. I am on a new dream path also and will know the direction it takes on Monday. The beautiful photos and script will be held in my hand whatever the results are for me. Thank you for sharing, and at a time I needed this inspiration. Sending you joy, bliss an success along your new path.

  28. The hardest part (the decision) is over… now it’s just working out the details. It’s a very liberating feeling, isn’t it?

    So often we think of how much of ourselves (time, money, emotional “heart”) we’ve invested in something and how substantive that “something” is, and it becomes larger than life and very formidable. We feel small against the idea of undoing it all. It takes courage to lay it down and move on – to see a vision of another life.

    Cheers to your courage, and to the bright and shiny “next chapter”. Like many others, I am new to following you – but sincerely wish you all the best.

  29. Sounds like a great plan Michael! Sometimes after following your dreams, you’ve got to make a turn and follow your gut (but keep the dreams too). I know you’ll be successful in whatever road you take. Have a peaceful week!

  30. Maybe a year ago (?) you opened up your comments section for any questions we might have for you. I asked a bunch of questions about what your typical day was like at the inn and if you ever got a day off, etc…It does seem like a romantic notion to run an inn, but I suspected it must have been a 24/7 type of job. That’s hard to do all on your own. Listen I can barely keep my own home clean and cook for my family on a regular basis much less for guests-lol! It’s amazing that you’ve been so creative while juggling so many other things. You’re a rockstar! Can’t wait to see how your new dreams shape up. Best of luck :)

  31. Michael- It takes courage and strength to listen to your dreams! Congrats on your new adventure. We often think its the destination which is the prize…its the journey. Know you will enjoy the journey. Know you have believed enough to do what you feel. Keep believing!

  32. Well good for you! I found your blog when it was just “taking off” and so I have watched it- and you- grow. I wish you well as your life takes new turns and I’ll stay tuned to see where the adventure leads you. I love to see what you have to share with us next. God bless you!

  33. I’m a fairly new follower to your blog, but just wanted to chime in with my support. I have a little note to myself in a frame on my desk that says simply, “Live your own truth. Life is really short.” Good luck, Michael!

  34. Michael,
    I don’t personally know you and have never had the pleasure of visiting your bed and breakfast. I “know” you through Pinterest! I found your blog through your pins and I have been drawn in! Reading your New Year’s post as well as this one has brought tears to my eyes and wanting you to be happy and wanting you to accomplish all the things you set out to do and feel accomplishment in the things you have already achieved! I am amazed by the internet how you can be complete strangers and feel connected with a person not even having one conversation! I love the pictures and quotes in this post. I think it captures well what you are saying. Many blessings to you and the future steps you take as you make new and exciting choices for yourself. I look forward to reading more about your journey! This is exciting and many people are getting an opportunity to see it all unfold! Thanks for your willingness to share!

  35. I haven’t been following your blog for long…but really enjoy it. YAY! to you for realizing when your dreams are changing and for having enough courage to move forward rather than being/staying a slave to something that is no longer working for you! I look forward to reading about what you do next…

  36. Life is meant, in my opinion, to be lived as an adventure. You’ve done wonderfully thus far, Michael, in living your B&B dream and now it’s time to move on. I wish you all the luck – may you continue to thrive in your adventures, always landing on your feet and amid friends. I love to read you and hope to continue doing so for a long time.

  37. Best of luck, Michael with all of your new projects and adventures. I can’t imagine the work it would take to run a B&B. It is amazing that you you bought one at age 25. I do regret never coming to stay, but I do look forward to visiting the shop one day. Congratulations on having the courage to follow your dreams!

  38. Congratulations and best wishes on your new dreams to achieve! Remember to “just breathe”, that is wonderful advice that you have given to yourself!!

  39. Best wishes to you, Michael! Even though I don’t really know you, it is obvious to me that you are a genuine, kind, open-hearted person and those things will take you to great places. You have much to look forward to!!

  40. Michael, your post made me very happy for you . . . and a bit sad for me (staying with you in your B&B, eating your pancakes & other treats, and enjoying your shop was on my bucket list. Now I’ll change it to “meet Michael in his fabulous shop”). You’re a wonderful inspiration. I love your design aesthetic, your recipe choices, your interesting posts. I’ll continue to “follow” you with interest as long as you choose to blog & pinterest. So accept my heartfelt congratulations and ignore my selfish tears. I wish all things wonderful for you as you continue to live your dreams and grow in love, life, & design. PS – your grandma is correct (no one else’s business)

  41. WOW Michael – good for you! It is so exciting to realize a dream, live it then move on to another dream! I had on my “to do list” a stay at your B&B one day – and just sit and take in all that your walls had to say………it’s ok though, that obviously wasn’t supposed to happen. Love your blog, your funny sense of humor and will continue following you on to your next dream. I know it will be a dream worth following. Much love and success! Susan
    PS – work for me has been so crazy, I am just now catching up on what everyone else is doing!

  42. and so another page turns in the atlas and the map is laid wide open before you. No regrets, every step has lead you to a new adventure! All the best, Shellie @ The Claiborne House B&B in Virginia.

  43. Congratulations to you! I made the same decision after running our B & B for six years for almost the same reasons. You did the right thing. Never look back and never regret. Follow your dreams..you are young and so talented. Go for whatever it is you want. All the best

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